It has been said that the best way to predict future behavior is to look at the past. Perhaps this is true if you wanted to condemn someone to repeating the same mistakes over and over. But what hope would any of us have at growing and improving if we are constantly expecting similar outcomes as dictated by our past behavior?
I suppose it would be better said that if a person wanted to change their behaviors but they haven't made any obvious changes to support the intended outcome... then yes, the above statement would prove to be true. However, this is not a good model to support you actually becoming the creator or author of your own life.
What if you could both agree and disagree with past behavior as a predicting factor based on your own inner knowings as they grew with wisdom? Would that challenge your beliefs about how destiny is applied to your life ? Do you even believe in destiny or is it a modified, more fluid version based on not really being 100% confident about every aspect it?
For those who haven't knowingly connected with their higher selves yet:
When things don't go your way, especially if you believe in destiny, you often say things happen 'to you'. What you are actually doing is setting up the 'Great Excuse' of blaming others and the outside reality for things that happen in your life. You may not believe in destiny at all and the same would still be true.
What is actually happening is the energy of lack mentality kicks in and rears its ugly and deceptive head. Lack mentality loves excuses. Excuses are just ways to blame anyone and anything outside of yourself and allows you to not take full responsibility for all your actions including everything you attract to yourself to experience in this life.
Being a Sovereign Being means taking full responsibility for everything in your life.
If you say you trust and have faith in a higher power and you let someone else 'take the wheel of your life', then you absolutely haven't learned to take full responsibility for your lives as sovereign beings. That's like saying my dead grandmother - who was a wonderful woman - is to thank or blame when things go right or wrong in my life. You may choose to believe your deceased loved ones are guiding you in spirit, but they certainly do not make daily decisions for you, nor does any other being outside of yourself.
If I thanked or blamed my grandmother (or any other ancestor or being) whom has passed out of the physical vessel, then what I'm doing is setting myself up to hand over my personal power for decision making and free will. As a result, I will always have someone to blame or thank and I can avoid personal responsibility for my actions and decisions. That is not a sovereign being with free will.
So what's the point of free will?
When children are young they need someone to guide them. Thanking or blaming someone for guiding you is ok when you're learning how to navigate this reality. However, at some point you're able to make decisions for yourself about your own life.
There is nothing wrong with people giving advice or assistance when you need and ask for help. Problems occur when you give your personal power away when someone imposes their will or beliefs upon you. That is typically when you become aware of your own personal power and then hopefully, start to reclaim it.
This is where people have been getting stuck.
The conditioning has been so strong that people have a hard time challenging beliefs that were handed to them as a child. Just because someone told you it was true, must it be so? That never, EVER made anything true - just because someone told you so... because someone told them it was true... That does seem very much like a hidden aspect of the lack mentality we were just talking about, and it has been perpetuated in a very long cycle past down through the generations.
There is a simple solution for people who are stuck. It may be simple but not necessarily easy.
It is your birthright to use your given rights to:
Think freely by suspending core beliefs imposed upon you from childhood and by society in general.
Due your due diligence by searching out information that supports both sides of any belief system.
Learn from personal experience and by what you have now researched (not just what you heard and were told by anyone).
Suspend disbeliefs of everything you previously thought wasn't or couldn't be true.
And finally, make adjustments to what feels right in your heart center for establishing new beliefs that better fit you now, as an adult (yes, it's your feelings that will guide you to truth).
Always ask yourself, "Does this resonate with me?"
Listen with your heart - you will know if something feels right or not - if it "resonates" with you or not.
You can start making decisions for yourself based on beliefs from your own personal experiences (not someone else's) and your very own inner knowing. You really do have a personal guidance system inside but it's up to you to activate and use it.
** Remember, it's not what you know, but what you use of what you know that ultimately matters. Full disclosure: I found that last saying in a fortune cookie and I carry it around with me to this day reminding me to use my gifts as often as possible.
Eventually little humans become full-grown humans but their bodies don't always reflect their maturity level. Spiritual maturity comes from experiences that allow for inner growth. Spoiler Alert: You can choose inner growth at any time during your human incarnation.
People often say they are blocked from their true Inner Connection.
When someone says they are blocked from their true inner connection or they can't seem to connect to their higher selves, this so simple to fix. First, let's understand that these blocks are in place by your own creation. Second, these blocks from your inner self are rooted deep in confusion.
Where there is doubt there is a default mechanism that kicks in from this confusion. This is important. It's a self-generated program created from the conditioning received as a child. These default blocks actually take over our decision making processes tricking us into thinking a true inner connection isn't real or that we are somehow broken. They are automatically activated when there appears to be a threat to your core belief systems.
In most cases, the habits resulting from the beliefs imprinted upon us as little children block our perceived ability to search for inner truth. A lot of the humans on this planet are taught to trust someone or something outside of ourselves. But how can we ever make that inner connection 'work' again if we're always looking outside of ourselves for validation and truth?
This is how a lot of us got stuck without our true self identities and knowingness of how to get out. Our inner connection was broken. The good news is that we have the personal and collective power to reprogram ourselves and reestablish our inner guidance systems. Let's talk about the game.
Hide and seek is a fun childhood game.
If you know and understand joy when you bring your inner child out to play, then why not look at life as a big game of hide and seek! The goal is to find yourself - your true higher self - and nobody can do it for you but you can have friends give you hints where to look.
You have been told your heart is the secret hiding place many times, but never quite understood how to get there because you have these old blocks. You started the game but you have given up because the game was rigged and you felt alone in your search for far to long. You knew as a child how to connect but your protective mechanisms took over and you have long since forgotten.
If you give up, you stop learning the truly important lessons.
Games are fun and learning can be fun too, when you remember it's really just a game. Mind you, a very, VERY long and tiring game who has seen many opponents cheat and play dirty (but that's another story). When you choose to engage with the game again, you can learn from experience and gain knowledge.
Try to see knowledge as points in the game. You get the points when you learn lessons. In this game your points need to be converted so you can level up. You must choose to level up willingly. Nobody can do this for you - that's the big secret and the key to success in this game.
This is how the spiritual maturity process works while in your human incarnation now.
You choose to engage in learning (playing the game of life).
You gain knowledge (points) because lessons are learned and personal experienced is achieved.
You have suspended all core beliefs that were given to you as a child or by someone else.
You are now choosing your own beliefs, congratulations!
You convert your knowledge (points) into wisdom (leveling up) by accepting full responsibility for everything in your life and move forward with this understanding.
You will then be able to find and connect with your higher self(s). Yes, there is more than one but let's just start with reconnecting in your heart center with the first one who is closest in vibration to you.
This process doesn't mean your life is perfect and lessons won't continue. As long as you are in a human body you can continue your spiritual growth.
The knowledge you gain along your journey is written within the unique blueprint of your heart (literally) and will mature into wisdom when you decide to use it. Eventually little humans become full-grown but their bodies don't necessarily reflect their spiritual maturity level. So let's talk about how we get signs for spiritual development through triggering events.
Triggers are Important Signs
Spiritual maturity starts to develop when you are capable of suspending core beliefs that were forced upon you as a child. You then begin to engage in true self-learning. Knowledge can also come from navigating events that trigger you with a sincere desire to change old habits which no longer serve you. However, first you must recognize and desire to really get into your triggers, not avoid them or use them as excuses as to why you are avoiding certain feelings or situations.
It's becoming common among the younger generations to use the word 'trigger' as an avoidance mechanism. This is alarming because instead of really getting into why you are triggered in the first place and fully dealing with those emotions and feelings (yes, it can be scary), nothing will be learned until they are properly addressed and healed inside.
Just knowing your triggers doesn't translate to knowledge in spiritual terms, nor will it convert into wisdom until the lessons are achieved. Remember that lessons are repeated until they are learned. Why continue this cycle knowingly? There is a saying, "there is nothing to fear except fear itself" and this would apply quite well in this example.
I've heard a lot of people say things like "that triggered me..." or "I can't see (or watch )that because it will trigger my anxiety...". People seem well aware of their triggers but they stop short of doing the inner work to heal the cause. They are most times, very well aware of which group of feelings they are avoiding. They are actively choose to not engage in the healing process.
Why would you do this?
If something triggers you then there's something worth checking out. It's might feel like a side road but it's definitely a flashing light saying something wants and needs to be healed and released. It's like finding a bonus item in the middle of a game. It's a loud and clear signal for you to gain something and it's literally shouting at you to look at it and pick it up - really get into it and learn something about yourself.
Learning the value of overcoming adversity and becoming stronger is priceless in wisdom, but there is still a price to pay. Not all beings here right now have been willing to pay that price. Having an easy life is great but let's just say there' s not a lot of opportunities to convert knowledge into wisdom from an 'easy' life.
Try to see your triggers as bright and shiny objects offering you the promise of some major points that can be converted into wisdom, literally being handed to you if only you would pick it up and look at it.
It could be something you need to forgive within yourself.
It could be something you haven't addressed yet.
It could be fear that's ready to be released.
It could be pain that needs to be healed.
I could be sadness that needs to be comforted.
It could be an old memory that needs to be set free.
It could be a lesson you have been avoiding.
It could be a challenge you haven't accepted yet.
And so on...
Or it could be a signal for the next chapter...
It could also be your life's mission or soul contract to gain a certain knowledge base and then the triggers come when it's time for the next-level maturity to occur - because you have reached a certain point of transcending previous levels of information (or perhaps wisdom) and now you are ready for the next step. *** Cue the triggers for the most stubborn sleepy ones who keep hitting the snooze button on their spiritual evolution.
But rest assured that a release always occurs both when the time and the person are right.
Is that considered DESTINY?
If you are a person who says you believe in destiny and everything that happens in your life must be someone (or something) else's will, are you not just avoiding doing the work here on this free will planet? The 'work' also involves getting to know your true self and remembering where you came from.
Yes, actually remembering and reconnecting with your higher self and integrating that higher power within you. It's not on the outside and no person who ever lived in a human body can or will 'do it for you'. Taking responsibility for your life is a sovereign being, free will choice that YOU have to make.
You can avoid it or you can start looking within your own heart. Sitting on a fence that no longer exists is silly.
CONTROLLERS BEWARE! YOU ARE PUT ON NOTICE - WE SEE YOU!
Micromanaging people is simply another version of controlling people and trying to impose your will. Often people who do this actually feel no control in their own lives. They use this technique without realizing awakened people can see it a mile away and very often reject it. We work with people like this only when we must.
The person doing the controlling will often feel like the other person is being difficult, when in fact, they are simply exercising their sovereign rights not be controlled. Blaming others by using the Great Excuse is a sign that you haven't matured in spirit yet and both micromanaging and blaming are quite obvious to those who are already awakened.
Perhaps you have noticed some people just seem to fall out of your life. I assure you that when your energy levels 'uplift' in rate of vibration, you will no longer want to be around people, situations and things that steal your energy (knowingly or unknowingly). Everyone must figure out how to make their own reconnection to Source within their own heart centers.
Your heart is not just an organ that keeps your physical body alive by pumping blood through your system. It's a very real energetic center that can be viewed as your own personal portal to higher dimensions. This is where you make your reconnection. It does translate into your physical vessel which you can see with your spiritual eyes. If your eyes are not yet opened, then perhaps it's time!
Reconnecting is your goal right now.
For those who have or are in the process of connecting with their higher selves: When you look at your free will choices to co-create your life... are you using your gifts to be of service?
There comes a point in the process of ascending where you know what you know and that's enough because life is hard in this reality. You've had enough. You just want to go home. You are tired of dealing with people who drain your energy. And then it happens again and again, over and over.
Remember this and I will say it one more time: Lessons are repeated until they are learned. Just because you reconnected with your higher self, doesn't mean you life will be perfect. It doesn't mean you won't feel hurt, pain and suffering. You are human and you are supposed to feel and feel FULLY!
The questions then becomes, "how do you react or respond to what you feel?" Do you react with knee-jerk reactions when you get triggered? If so, most likely there is still something inside that needs healing and release. Perhaps you haven't released everything from that hurt, pain or traumatic memory you've worked on for years and years and let go of many times (and still get triggered). There are many layers to the onion just as there are many layers to you with your hurts and pains. Don't avoid your triggers.
Healing triggers leads to healing old wounds. Healing in this way can lead to your destiny.
Destiny points are very real indeed. Free will allows you to choose which path your human ego will take that eventually leads to true destiny points. Fluidity in destiny points allows for circular time (true time/no-time) to adjust to linear time (false time) on this planet but all paths will eventually lead you back home. It's up to you as to how long you play the game of life. Finding your Self in this game is still your objective.
Will you continue to hit your head with a hammer over and over if it causes pain? It's your choice but the longer you do that, the longer your healing will take. Your destiny point of healing is already a true destiny point. You just have to figure out when it's right for you to achieve this.
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Lynda's blog was created to provide insights through personal experiences to assist those who wish more information about the Ascension process currently underway as translated through her higher self.