You've probably heard the phrase that people come into our lives for a time, a reason or a season. When we become attached to someone and they leave, it can be a hard pill to swallow. I used to say that was bittersweet and sometimes it truly is... however if you zoom out to get a glimpse of the bigger picture it can be a grand sight to behold as well. But what can we do about the compulsive liars and master manipulators who always seem to want to hurt us? Do they even have a soul?
How many times has someone left your life or you have left someone else's life for whatever reason? That could be very hard to actually count, but I'm certain you have a short list of names for times this happened and it really hurt bad. Perhaps the situation was a sudden death or a breakup or a dispute that comes to mind. Perhaps you just lost touch with someone by way of ghosting them or you getting ghosted.
When someone dies suddenly it can be a shock to your mind, body spirit system. There is a process for grieving and no two people process grief the same way. I'm not going to talk to much about this type of situation right now. I'd rather dive into situations when soul contracts are involved and when you attract people to learn a valuable lesson; perhaps repeating that lesson just to make sure you've learned it.
We attract and repel people on a very simple level, our energy. It's polarized and magnetized and just like a magnet we attract and repel energy into and out of our fields. Every person has a field of energy that draws people for the sake of experiences, to satisfy soul contracts set up pre-birth. If this is not your belief that is ok. Just innerstanding or contemplating on this idea will help you to understand that you are determining what comes into your life, as-well-as who shows up and leaves. You do it both consciously or unconsciously.
People are drawn to your field through your biomagnetic resonance or rather: your frequency and rate of vibration. Are you in charge of your frequency rate? Can you actively choose which dimension your mind system shifts into? Are you actively trying to improve yourself everyday and in all ways? Or do you have a lot to say about other people? Do you fall into blame and drama often?
Did you know that those who frequently gossip and blame others when they should be taking responsibility for their own lives, most often betray those closest to them? Why? Because something comes up for them they don't want to accept responsibility for - and then they lie to themselves and try to get rid of it by projecting it onto other people. They make it worse by trying to get others to see their twisted perspective (outside validation) and lies they've been telling themselves. Have you had this experience?
There is how betrayal becomes an issue.
When you have a person from the past that burned you in some way: maybe they lied about you, maybe they betrayed you outright, maybe you had to separate yourself from their toxicity... whatever the case may be, it can be tricky to navigate yourself out into freedom from their judgements. The tricky part is letting go of caring what they say to others. That's where it gets stuck in your field. If you care it WILL stick.
So how do you let go of caring? Seems like a bad thing to do...
First try to fly up and zoom out to see the bigger picture. When you can see there actually is a reason for all your lessons and experiences and that you have been the one allowing all the energy in your personal field, you begin to accept your personal sovereignty. Then you reclaim it! You (and only you) can do this when you're ready. A simple statement can work, but some of us need deeper work because we've been conditioned longer or the programming runs very deep.
I did a few videos in March 2019.
The first one about reclaiming the Universal Law of Free Will is 8 minutes you can see it HERE.
The second video is 25 minutes and teaches you how to Reclaim Your Personal Sovereignty HERE
One thing for certain in this new age of transparency is that lying is becoming a lot harder for people who resonate on a lower frequency, isn't it? We can see and feel it! In full honesty, as 'sensitive' and in-tune as I can be, people have still managed to sneak around my guards (let's call that 'psychic security defenses') and most recently fly under my 'radar' like a stealthy little ninja.
I have still been caught off my game and actually allowed people in my life who I know to be untrustworthy and manipulative. Why would I do this? I suppose I was caught in the old programming that if you're a 'good person' then you always give someone another chance. I've been working hard to get my energy straight and fully see where I wanted to place my boundaries: yes, YOU get to set your boundaries and nobody else! If you don't set them someone else WILL.
So in doing this work personally I can speak about it because it's not just one experience, it's many many times I have allowed others to dictate my boundaries and tell me what I should be doing and allowing or not allowing in my life. I have mostly led my life marching to the beat of my own drummer but that doesn't mean I haven't made some mistakes over and over. This being one of them.
Once I reclaimed my Personal Sovereignty by using the activated Universal Law of Free Will, the deeper patterns started making appearances again so I could clear them out consciously. When we are blinded by patterns of people in our life who are liars, manipulators and using you for their own gain somehow, we don't always see it because THAT may not (now) be the lesson.
Lessons evolve with you... there are ripples with literally everything.
When you do the inner work the deeper lessons begin appearing in how you handle the ripples from others - and YES, the hardest lessons and tests come at you from others projecting their fears and their stuff onto you. Herein is the challenge: When they fling their crap at you, what you do you and how do you respond?
Taking control of your own field doesn't mean you must do this or that. It is NOT your responsibility to handle others lessons and density. You are doing so much work now. A lot of people do not get what's happening but they're finding it more and more difficult to keep behaving in the same ways of being selfish and manipulative without loosing people in their lives.
How many times will it take?
That depends on the individual but I can tell you this: people who have the spiritual lingo down can also be very deceptive. They say all the right things and act as if their heart is in the right place but they play the poor me card (the victim card) often. They betray you first chance they get when it serves them best and they blame you! They refuse to see the bigger picture of what they are doing and how they are trying to hurt you by blaming and resorting to lies and manipulation.
The fruit of your works and your heart shows itself by your actions, not your words. You will learn things the natural way or the hard way and if you're not listening to your body and getting plenty of rest when needed, you will most likely make mistakes and learn the hard way because your stuff will come right back at you now, isn't it wonderful?!!!
Here's how to own it: If you do or say something wrong, own it, take full responsibility and ask forgiveness. I only teach what I actively practice and I've made plenty of mistakes. The forgiveness is for you - doesn't mean you have to repeat the mistake of allowing this back into your life, especially when you're dealing with a compulsive liar addicted to drama.
Serious question: How many times do you need to get burned by a fire before you learn not to touch it?
If I allow a safe space for you to vent and process your stuff, then I expect the same in return. A safe place is described as a time and place you can feel free to say whatever is on your mind or heavy on your heart. It's a place where you can express your emotions, your worries, doubts, fears and crap you're processing without fear of betrayal, retribution or gossip for things you may have said while working through your stuff.
Common sense, right? One would think but sadly, this isn't always so...
People who take trusted conversations and try to stir a pot with drama and lies are not to be trusted in this day and age. Hopefully you won't have to learn this the ways I have. And hopefully, you have people in your life that you CAN trust very much and allow you that safe space if you do need to vent and process stuff.
EVERYBODY needs to process stuff now! There are many ways to process what's going on as you learn more about your ascension into your multidimensional be-in-ness - your true state of being.
Now you decide how to heal. Do you forgive them? If you want to be healthy of course you do. But you are under no obligations whatsoever to let them back in your life. If you decide to allow people in your life who have treated you very poorly, that is on you. I've had to learn this beauty and re-learn it many, many times.
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